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"My daughter only likes high scorers"

QUERY: My 10-year-old daughter is a topper and she doesn't like being friends with kids who don't seem to be most sensible scorers. I wish to inform her that marks don't seem to be the whole lot. Please lend a hand

EXPERT: "I'm certain it's a proud feeling for you to have this kind of bright child but on the similar time I can understand your apprehensions with regards to her choosing her friends. We all reside in a global of rat race where the whole lot is about achievements and good fortune. Unfortunately knowingly or unknowingly our youngsters are also being subjected to this kind of way of thinking from the very starting itself, where there's a very clear demarcation between 'winners' and 'losers'!

From what you will have shared it seems like your child chooses to be with the 'winners' who will have a just right affect on her. Though this mindset won't have much repercussions at this age but if this continues we will quickly sufficient be capable of see its impact on her and her social life.

While I'm certain you're a doing an ideal activity parenting her, it's always a good idea to appear inside of yourself and round you for your circle of relatives and notice in case any individual is promoting this kind of mindset. Words like 'you are the perfect', 'foolish other folks do not rating neatly', 'your pals have an influence on you and in the event you hangout with particular more or less other folks you'll transform like that' generally tend to create this kind of mindset. In case you end up or any individual round using such phrases kindly chorus.

Children also be informed from the actions of the adults. So, notice the varieties of conversations you and your spouse have in entrance of the child. While telling her verbally that everyone is equivalent is great, I'd also inspire you to turn her how everyone has a different talent, and education is simply one of the vital many abilities other folks have.

At this level I will be able to also urge you to take her to an NGO with youngsters and make her play with them, so that she learns the artwork of sharing and the sense of equality.

I hope these suggestions will permit you to, in case you have any longer queries feel free to reach out to me."

Dr. Rachna Khanna Singh is the HOD of the Holistic Medicine & Psychology - Artemis Hospital, Gurgaon

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